Yes, you are hurt, and maybe even angry. Someone did you wrong and you can not justify their actions, you hold on to your resentment and anger because to you it seems easier than to accept the pain and forgive the action and person who inflicted it on you.
In the previous article “Forgiveness the road to healing” we realize the many benefits of forgiveness and how it actually benefits the forgiver a lot more than the forgiven. Once the initial emotional whirlwind settles then you are faced with a question, do you forgive? And if you decide you are ready for it, how do you go about it?
First you must understand the true meaning of forgiveness. It does not mean in any way that you forget what happened, it does not mean that you should verbally tell the person you forgive them or excuse their actions, it does not mean that you stop having feelings about the situation, it does not mean that the person should remain in your life, or that the relationship is OK and you don’t need to work at it, and most of all forgiveness is done for you.
Accepting what happened and deciding to let go only allows you to be at peace with yourself to help you heal. And although it is a challenge to do so especially if the pain is rooted so deeply, but once anger is released and emotions settle the advantages outweigh the difficulty.
There are many tools to help you overcome the hurt and to forgive, here are a few suggestions to get you started but first find a peaceful place that allows yourself the freedom to reflect and have an inner dialogue.
Once you decide to forgive it takes you to a place, which you rise above as a person. Bringing out the best in you rather than the worst. You act from a place of love and compassion, which is the road to healing and happiness. It sets you free and makes you stronger as a person. A journey worth embarking on.
By Life Coach, Mira Khatib